Everyday
everyone is looking for something that will draw a parabolic curve that opens
upward onto his face. Everyday everyone is taking his journey to finding that
one special reason to keep living and to keep the happiness real in his
life—without faking smiles and telling he’s okay even if he’s not. However, not
all achieve their goals—some just lost hope in taking risk, some had failed, some
just got tired of continuing the trip.
Happiness
is a thing everyone is looking for. Some find their happiness in their loved
ones. Some find it in their recent jobs. Some find it in fulfilling their
desires. Some find it elsewhere even within the gloomiest moments of their
lives. However, what does real happiness mean? Is there such a formula in
finding the genuine happiness in this world full of irony?
Happiness
has no definite definition. Its definition is relative. It differs from one
individual to another. The definition depends on how things are seen and
considered. In the eyes of a child, happiness is receiving a candy from a
friend or from his parents. In the heart of a lover, happiness is spending
quality time with his special someone. In the mind of a failure or a frustrated
person, happiness is achieving his goal on his own, without depending on
somebody. In the heart of a rejected, genuine happiness in found in acceptance.
In the eyes of parents, happiness is when they see their children succeed on
their chosen career. In the eyes of a son or a daughter, happiness is when his
parents become proud of him even in his littlest achievements. In the mind of a
problematic, happiness is when answers come along his way. In the heart of the
unnoticed, happiness is when suddenly somebody spend time listening to every
word he utters. In the heart of an artist, happiness is found when his masterpiece
is appreciated. For the less fortunate, happiness is taking at least one meal in
a day. For an accused, happiness is when he is found innocent. Happiness is not
defined, it is felt. It is felt whenever peace overdoes stress in whatever
situation at hand. It is felt whenever positivity overshadows the effects of
negativity in one’s life.
Happiness
is not measured quantitatively, but rather qualitatively. It is how things are
perceived positively despite of all surrounding negativities. It is how things looked
brighter though it seemed to be so dim. Happiness, indeed, is a product of the
factors taking into consideration. These factors are the
variables—relationships, achievements and failures, goals and dreams, even
trials and problems—we consider important in our lives. Ironic it may seem failures
and problems add some sense of fulfillment though they diminish some portion of
happiness. It is sadness that makes happiness well appreciated and treasured.
It is failure that helps us keep going to achieve our ultimate
goal—experiencing genuine happiness in our lives. It is problem that opens our
mind to realize that solutions are just around the corner.
One
amusing fact in science is when you divide something you are actually
multiplying the quantity without compromising the quality. It is well manifested
in cell division. To have happiness lasted for a longer time possible, one
should share it. Nothing worth trying is worth doing. However, when it comes to
spreading happiness everywhere, one should always consider sharing it, without
faking it. Fake happiness is not worth it because it is not real, no matter
what rationale is given. The authenticity of happiness can be proven by the way
people live. It is shown by the way they talk, the way they do things, the way
they react and the way they act whenever troubles strike them.
To
spread happiness is not easy. You should have experienced it first and it
should be real in your life. You could not share something you really don’t
have. You can find real happiness by sharing your life with others. You can
find real happiness in helping the needy and in comforting the weary.
Happiness is not
a treasure to be found at the “X” mark on the map, rather it is found in the
journey to finding that “X” mark. It is not a variable to be solved in the
equation of life. It is THE answer we have solved after evaluating the equation
with the substituted values in each variable. If happiness is written in a
mathematical equation, it is somewhat looked like this:
Happiness is the
quotient of the products of positive things and negative things in life. If the
product of positive things in life is
higher than the product of negative
things in life, then happiness is relatively big. Otherwise, it is
relatively small. I could not enumerate the positive or the negative things in
life because these two classifications are relative. It depends on how a person
considers things—either positive or negative. However, no matter how big or how
small the happiness solved from the equation, it is still happiness. This would
mean, whatever comes to our lives, we always experience happiness even if it is
little or almost none.
So before you
say you are living a sad life, or a problematic one, think about the things
that once made you smile. There is always something to look into. There is
always something to look forward to. There is always someone to look up. It may
be hard for now, but do not stop. It may be dark and scary, but do not give up.
Keep moving on and keep moving forward.
Soon you will experience greater joy when you surpass all the challenges life
has for you. Soon you will find the things that will make you happy in a way no
one could tell you. Soon you can say you have finally found and experienced
genuine happiness like no one else.
